Marriage, why am I thinking so deeply about it? I’m 18 and single. Well, I’m a Christian and I strive to live my life by God’s standards and follow His design for everything. God created marriage to reflect His Son’s relationship with His bride the Church. If you spend any time in the bible you can see God’s plan of salvation in everything. From Genesis 3:15 to Revelation 22:17. God revealed His plan from the very beginning. He gave men and women specific roles to fulfill in that plan.
Gender has been a huge issue in our world recently. So many people seem to want to ‘do away’ with gender entirely. But, they don’t understand just how fundamental this is to our very identity. God created you male or female for a reason. You have a part to play in this wonderful display of God’s love toward the world.
So many people ask the question, ‘Why doesn’t God save everyone?’ But, the more time I spend studying God’s word and His wonderful design for Salvation. I ask the question, ‘Why does God save anyone? Why did He save me?’ You see, we don’t deserve salvation. We deserve to spend eternity in hell.
I bet you’re asking, ‘Wait, what does this have to do with marriage?’ Well, it has everything to do with it. Jesus Christ’s relationship and love for His bride- the Church is to be reflected in our marriage relationships. This means that by studying the Bible, more specifically, what Jesus did for His bride, shows me what a real, lasting marriage looks like. This is why I’ve been thinking about marriage and dating so deeply. I might only be 18, but I want to be ready when God reveals to me who I am to marry. I want to know what God wants me to be as a wife and hopefully a mother. You see, I might want to have a great blog and maybe make a business out of it. But, ever since I was a child, I’ve had this deep desire for a marriage and for children. I want to have a lot of children someday. But, this is my desire, not necessarily God’s. And, I want to spend my single years pursuing my relationship with God and pursuing friendships. I don’t want to spend with one boyfriend after another. Or, as I like to call recreational dating ‘divorce practice.’ I want any relationship I’m in to be with marriage as the end goal.
You might be surprised by how much God says in the Bible about marriage, and husband, and wives. I’d love to go into great depth on those subjects in this post, but I just don’t think it’s possible. (Unless you want to read a 20,000-word post…) So, I’m going to start a series on here called, ‘Reclaiming Marriage’ I want to shed light through the Word of God on what it means to have a godly marriage, what that looks like, and what the roles of the husband and wife are. Because God did give both the wives and the husbands specific, individual roles and He graciously designed us and equipped us to be able to fulfill those roles.
Let’s start at the very beginning
Genesis 1:26-31 (ESV)
Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” And God said, ‘Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit. You shall have them for food. And to every beast of the earth and to every bird of the heavens and to everything that has the breath of life, I have given every green plant for food.” And it was so. And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good. And there was evening and there was morning the sixth day.
Okay, that’s a kind of long passage. But, I wanted to give you the context for some of the points I’m going to make. I want to get something out of the way first. God uses the word ‘man’ a lot in this passage. I want to clarify that when He uses the word ‘man’ He is referring to the human race as a whole. Not just males. Okay, now we can move on.
Let’s begin by pointing out the differences in this sixth day of creation from the other 5 days.
If we look at just the first sentence it says ‘Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness.”‘ I want you to notice the ‘us’ and ‘our’, God the Father wasn’t alone when He created man. God is Triune. There are 3 persons in the Godhead: The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit. I am not going to go into detail about the Triune nature of God because I don’t fully understand it. But, I’m okay with that. God decided to reveal some aspects of His nature to us and some He chose to hide. The Trinity is something that we humans with our finite minds can’t completely understand because it hasn’t been fully revealed to us.
Okay, back to Genesis 1:26. I believe that when God made man, the Son, and possibly the Holy Spirit were there too because God uses the words ‘us’ and ‘our.’ This is truly incredible. I don’t fully understand the relationships between God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. But, I do know that the relationship of Christ to the church mirrors the relationship between Jesus Christ and God. And, we are to mirror Christ and the church’s relationship in our marriages.
These are some of my favorite verses in the bible. God created me in His image. The Creator of the universe, whose voice created everything, chose to make me in HIS image. It’s truly incredible and just dwelling on that fact brings tears to my eyes. I have a lot of worth because I am made in the image of the Triune God. He gave us humans dominion over everything else that He had made. We are different from all of the plants and animals because we are the Imagio Dei (The Image of God).
God blessed us, humans. It doesn’t say that He blessed any other thing that He made. He commanded us to be fruitful and multiply. God also commands us to have children. I will not marry a man who doesn’t want children because of this. God cherishes human life because it shows forth His image. We need to cherish human life just like He does.
There is one other detail that I’m going to mention that is different about day 6. In verse 31, it says, ‘And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good. And there was evening and there was morning the sixth day.’ Did you catch it? God said that it was VERY good. Every other day He just said it was good. But, God found His creation of humans to be very good. You are a very good creation of God. That makes me so happy. God made everything about you perfectly. He doesn’t make mistakes and that gives me so much peace and joy.
God formed men and women differently
Genesis 2: 7-8 (ESV)
then the LORD God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature. And the Lord God planted a garden in Eden, in the east, and there he put the man whom he had formed.
God made man from the dust of the earth. When I think about this, I imagine a potter taking a lump of clay and carefully forming each and every part of a human body. There are so many complex parts of our bodies that we are only beginning to understand. I find it absolutely incredible that God formed every aspect of our bodies from the dust of the earth. I imagine the potter starting with the innermost parts of the man’s body. Maybe the innermost organs, the heart, lungs, intestines, stomach, etc… And, also, making the skeleton and muscles and forming it all together to make each part of the man. From the top of his head to the bottom of his feet.
And, then, God breathed into him, the breath of life. Take a deep breath, now think about it. God gave you that breath. He is the only reason you are alive today. How does that make you feel?
Genesis 2:18-22 (ESV)
Then the LORD God said, “it is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the LORD God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
The first woman was made from the rib of the man. I don’t know the complete significance of this but I find it absolutely fascinating and amazing. God created man from the dust of the earth then He made woman from the rib of the man.
God was truly amazing when He created humans male and female. We’re going to go into more depth on that in the next edition of this series. Which will hopefully be out sometime next week. Keep an eye on your email for a notification for it!
What did you think about this post? Please, comment below your honest thoughts and any questions you have on this post. I’d love to know any suggestions you have for future posts related to this topic.
Soli Deo Gloria,
P.S. Marriage and relationships are something that I’ve been interested in a lot recently. I want to preface this series by saying that I’m not going to take credit for 100% of these thoughts. I’ve been reading several books on this topic and I’ve been studying what God says in the bible about it. And, my words here are a combination of things that I’ve been thinking a lot about from those books. I want this series to flow from my learning, as I’m learning and studying this topic. I want to share as I’m learning not just afterward. 2 books I’ve been reading lately are ‘What He Must Be’ By Voddie Bauchem and ‘True Woman 101’ By Mary A. Kassian and Nancy Leigh Demoss. I’d highly recommend that you buy these books and read through them. It’s truly eye-opening.