“Let your past make you better, not bitter.” -Anonymous-
This is a quote that I’ve really had to accept this year and work on. My past may not be long, (I’m only 18) but, it’s had its share of ups and downs. I’ve cried. I’ve been depressed. I’ve been hurt. I’ve hurt others. I’ve felt betrayed by a person who I thought would never trample on my trust or take advantage of me. I’ve seen my best friend go through so many struggles and trials. I’ve had to fight to not become bitter towards another close friend. I am human though. I have been bitter at times. I have sent messages on a whim that I’ve regretted. I’ve worded things wrong. I’ve spent hours on the phone and in person trying to untangle those messes. But, I’m accepting that it is my past, every single situation, every word, every tear, every hug, every yell, and every whisper, has made me into the person I am today and I am forever grateful for all of them.
One thing I realized recently during a conversation with a close friend. He apologized that he ‘couldn’t be the person I needed.’ I realized after that comment that he had been exactly what I needed. You see, I don’t know all of my needs but God does. I might want that person to spend more time with me, I might want them to not change. But, those are wants. Those are not needs. God knew exactly what I needed and he gave me that. I’m learning to accept the things I can’t change because I know God has a bigger plan for them all.
“I have learned to kiss the wave that slams me into The Rock of Ages.” -Charles H. Spurgeon-
God, is my rock. I’ve been thrown against him several times this year. I have learned that man will let me down no matter how hard I try to deny that. But, thankfully, I’ve learned to embrace the trials that throw me back to God. They have turned me into the person I am today.
God’s ways are higher than our ways. He has omniscience (all-knowing) he knows everything, every thought that goes through our heads, every word that comes out of our mouths, and every action of our bodies. God knows what I need when I need it. He never gives me more than I can handle.
I love the book of Job because in it we see how faithful God is and that we can always trust him and lean on him. Something another friend pointed out recently, is that Job doesn’t know what’s in Job 1. He doesn’t know that God allowed the bad things to happen to him to test him.
Then Satan answered the Lord and said, “Does Job fear God for no reason? Have you not put a hedge around him and his house and all that he has, on every side? You have blessed the work of his hands, and his possessions have increased in the land. But stretch out your hand and touch all that he has, and he will curse you to your face.” And the Lord said to Satan, “Behold, all that he has is in your hand. Only against him do not stretch out your hand.” So Satan went out from the presence of the Lord.
God knew everything that happened to Job and He allowed it. I know that God tests me all the time. This year, my faith has been tested so many times. Some days, it takes everything in me to keep from cursing God and asking Him why this thing happened to me. Seeing the good that has eventually come out of the bad this year is what’s kept my faith strong. I can look back on the past 6 months of my life and see many things that I thought weren’t good but, they turned out good in the end.
“As for you, you meant it for evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.”
This is Joseph talking. If you don’t know his story I’d highly recommend reading it. (You can find it in Genesis 37-50 of the Bible.) Joseph was hated by his brothers so much that they sold him into slavery. While in a foreign country, he was convicted (wrongly) of adultery and cast into prison. There he sat for decades until someone remembered him and told Pharaoh about him. As a direct result of Joseph being sold into slavery, Millions of people both in Egypt and all over the world were saved from death by starvation during a horrible famine.
It’s because of stories like Joseph’s that I know I can trust God when I’m being tested. I know someday I will understand why the bad things are happening, even if that day isn’t till I get to heaven.
“Never be a prisoner of your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence.” -Anonymous-
I guess this quote goes along with the first one. But, it’s too true to not add to this post. Because of anxiety and just who I am, I tend to remember the past very well. I remember specific times when I have messed up and it’s very easy to beat myself up over them. This quote reminds me that I need to always be moving on. Life is constantly moving forward and if we constantly wish for it to stay the same, we will never get anywhere in life.
Your past is a lesson, remember it, but move on. Just, let it go. I know it’s hard sometimes, but you will be much happier and have a much more successful life if you can leave the past where it is and live in the present while looking towards the future.
“Without dreams, we reach nothing. Without love, we feel nothing. And without God, we are nothing.” -Anonymous-
I have so many dreams and these are what drives me every single day to get out of bed. God has blessed me with a constant burning passion to help others and that’s who I am. I know someday I will reach my goals because I’m not going to stop until I do. Love is something that I have learned so much about this year.
Love is something that I have been learning so much about this year. I’ve learned that love isn’t just about a girl and boy who want to spend the rest of their lives together. Love is between every friend and family member and yourself. I love all of my friends and my family. This doesn’t mean that I agree with everything they believe, but I love them and I show them that love. Being a Christian really changes how I see love. 1 Corinthians 13 is a chapter all about love and what it truly is. And, what it’s not. (If you haven’t read this chapter, I highly recommend it, it has literally changed my life and how I treat every person I meet.)
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
That is what love is. It is actions. But, it is also emotional. When you give someone love, you give them a big part of you. You get emotionally attached in some way or another. Without love, you really don’t feel anything. You become empty, you close up, you push people away. It takes the love of others to pull you out of this. I’m saying this because it is true. I probably wouldn’t be here today if it wasn’t for my friends and family.
Without God we are nothing. I believe this with my whole heart. God gives my life meaning. If this life is all there is, then why would it matter if someone killed another? Laws are useless without God. Everyone believes that God exists. No matter how hard you deny it, you know deep down that there is a higher power ruling everything and that thought terrifies you. God is both loving and just. He created everything. Literally, without Him, you would not exist. God gives life meaning.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” -Anonymous-
This quote has been my life this year. Because of the love of friends and family and the love of my readers on here and more importantly, because of the love of God. I have been able to start the journey out of anxiety. It’s been a long crazy journey filled with many ups and downs, U-turns, side trails, and highways. The courage that I have gained from loving others has given me the courage that I need to use the strength I have to make it through these trials.
“Everyone in life is going to hurt you, you just have to figure out which people are worth the pain.” -Anonymous-
A wise man once said, “Life is pain, anyone who says otherwise is selling something.” (Wesley from The Princess Bride) This is so true. Everyone you meet will hurt you in some way or another. It truly is a hard decision to decide which people are worth the pain. There are people who I have decided weren’t worth the pain. And there are even more that I have decided are worth it. There are some people who I will fight for every single day of my life. I know the pain that they have gone through and I know the pain that they have caused me. But, I have made my decision. I don’t break promises. If I promise you something I’m going to do whatever it takes to keep that promise. Because of this, I am very careful about what I promise and to who I promise it to.
“Some talk to you in their free time and some free their time to talk to you. Learn the difference.”-Anonymous-
The most expensive commodity you have is your time. Once it’s gone, you can NEVER get it back. Keep this in mind in your relationships too. If you only ever talk to people in your free time and never free your time for people, you won’t have many friends. This is a very hard concept to grasp. People say all the time,
“Time is money.”
And, that’s true. It’s so expensive. Don’t EVER take it for granted when someone clears their schedule for you. Be grateful to them. Neither of you will ever get that time back. Be careful who you spend your time with though. I’ve heard it said, “You are a product of the three people you spend the most time with.” This so very true. The more time I spend with people, the more time I want to spend with them and the more I become like them.
“Be happy in front of people who don’t like you, it kills them.” -Anonymous-
Happiness is a choice. If you choose to be happy around people who don’t like you, they will be jealous of that happiness. Throw happiness around like confetti and watch it grow.
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Soli Deo Gloria,